Saying “yes” keeps the door open for you to figure out if “no” really is the right answer. In most cases “no” is not the answer, so when your gut lets your mouth say “no” you shut down all other options. Say “yes” more often at work and at home and you’ll see a huge difference. I call it “milking the yes.”
My children Maddie and Sammy turn one on Saturday. When I step back to reflect on the year, I have a number of emotions:
amazed – that we all made it through the year unscathed (let’s not count the five ear infections they both had, croup, the flu and numerous colds)
startled – I can’t believe the year is over, wasn’t it dragging on forever just last month?
happy – I love my long-awaited for and much dreamed of family
sad – that I wished any of the time to go by faster; there were times that I wanted to wave a wand and just get to age four
surprised – that I seem to have less mommy guilt, than I did three and half years ago when my daughter turned one.
awakened – to milk joy from every single minute we all have together
inspired – to take more photos and videos and to chronicle milestones more aggressively
grateful – to the village that helped our family during this last year (lots neighbors who made us dinner, grandmother who lived with us for the first two months, grandparents who became permanent fixtures until they left for Florida for the winter, a benefactor who gave me all her twin gear, co-workers who dealt with my sleep deprivation, friends who showered us with love and gifts, Midnight Moms who got me through the first three months, our nanny who is now a member of our family and of course most importantly to the random people who came up to me (as I pushed a ginormous stroller with two small babies) and ask if they are twins.)
If you follow this blog you know that I am challenged with finding time where I feel like working out. So in addition to the stairs (I managed to do 30 flights today), I am also starting to do the add one sit up and one push up everyday. I started this with my friend Donna at work. We don’t do this at work, but we make sure we are both sticking to the plan. We’re on day four, so we’re doing very well so far – four sit ups and four push ups – who can’t do that?!
I am applying a similar approach to keeping up with all the news in my industry. You can’t possibly keep up with everything, but you can get yourself organized in such a way that you can add things in on a gradual basis and before you know it you are reading new blogs (MarketingProfs), watching another TED video (Sheryl Sandberg) and following new people on Twitter (@jowyang).